Help yourself by helping others

Ah summer. Currently here on North Georgia, it is hot. It is also rainy. It’s been raining for a week straight pretty much. There’s a lot of flooding all around us. But, thankfully today IS sunny. For now.

There’s a chance of rain today but we are out on our bike today in support of our community for a poker run. This is a lot of how we (both the boyfriend and I and the majority of the biker community) spend weekends the majority of the year.

Today we’re supporting a fellow rider who lost his leg in an accident and is currently fighting for insurance to pay. Sometimes it’s in support of sick children or people we don’t even know. Because it doesn’t matter if we know them, it only matters that they need help.

Most of us in this life in general know how hard life can get and personally, when we have enough we try to help those around us. It helps us, spiritually, to help those around us. We’re doing our own benefit in July for St. Jude’s and hope our community will come out.

So, if you have enough in your bowl, check your neighbors to see if they have enough. And if they don’t, help them out a little. The benefits might surprise you.

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Where’s the Love? – Why My Boyfriend and I Don’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Welcome dear readers! This is gonna be a short, personal post followed by some love quotes since today is Valentine’s Day! Now, I know you may be thinking, but the title says you don’t celebrate it. And you’re right. We don’t. But hear me out.

Valentine’s Day is a largely corporate holiday. It just it. It has deeper roots, but honestly, can you name them? Probably not. Because now it’s all about how much a guy does for his lady. Send flowers to her work, get her chocolates, plan a fancy dinner. It’s like a competition for who does the most for their lady. And I’m not ok with that. I know some girls who have broken up with their boyfriends because he either didn’t get them anything for Valentine’s Day or didn’t “do enough”. Seriously? What did you do for him for Valentine’s Day? Nothing. But I digress.

The boyfriend and I don’t celebrate it. I do NOT want to be part of this “competition” it creates about who buys more or does more for their significant other. It’s not ok. And I would much rather have many small random acts of love through out the year than one day of large gestures that he feels obligated to give me because of social norms. Sometimes, just when I feel like he’s getting away with not  doing any gestures of love, he surprises me with something small that just reminds me that he thinks about me more than I give him credit for. And I try to do the same for him. Sometimes it’s just bringing home his favorite candy bar when I know he’s had a rough day at work And to me, that’s what love is. Small, every day gestures. Not one day filled with large gestures. But, to each their own.


 

  • “I was waiting for the longest time, she said. I thought you forgot.     It is hard to forget, I said, when there is such an empty space when you are gone.” – unknown
  • Stardust – “If you came to me with a face I have not seen, with a voice I have never heard, I would still know you. Somewhere between the sand and the stardust, through ever collapse and creation, there is a pulse of you and I. When we leave this world, we give up all our possessions and our memories. Love is the only thing we take with us. It is all we carry from one life to the next.” – Lang Leav Memories
  • “What a sad thought it is, that some of us will surrender and settle down long before we have met the person we are supposed to love.” – Beau Taplin The Pressure
  • “I know I’m not easy to love. I’m a chronic over-thinker, I overreact more than I should… And every once in a while, I might be a little insecure. But if I am in love with you, I can promise you wholeheartedly that you will be loved with so much passion and intensity that you’ll forget what life felt like before I came along. You will always be cared for and you will always have someone in your corner. Maybe I’m not the best at being loved – but I like to think I’m pretty good at loving.” – Chelsea Carroll
  • “People don’t like love, they like that flittery flirty feeling. They don’t love love – love is sacrificial, love is ferocious, it’s not emotive. Our culture doesn’t love love, it loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it.” – unknown
  • “Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.” – Nayyirah Waheed
  • “I can say with great certainty and absolute honesty that I did not know what love was until I knew what love was not.” – P.T. Berkey
  • “It is a frightening thought, that in one fraction of a moment you can fall in the kind of love that takes a lifetime to get over.” – Beau Taplin
  • ” ‘ You can’t love someone unless you love yourself first.’ Bullshit. I have never loved myself. But you… Oh god, I loved you so much I forgot what hating myself felt like.” – My thoughts before I go to sleep.
  • “She reminded him of happiness, he reminded her of home; together, they were happy and at home.” unknown
  • “A relationship works best when both people believe they have got better than they deserve.” – unknown
  • “Sometimes, I think of the sun and the moon as lovers who rarely meet, always chase, and almost always miss one another. But once in a while, they do catch up, and they kiss, and the world stares in awe of their eclipse.” – unkown
  • “It’s somewhat early and she’s fast asleep. It doesn’t bother me because I know that there’s been times she’s laid awake at night unable to find sleep, no longer familiar with what it meant to find rest. The moment she laid on top of me, her head against my chest, her ear to my heart, I ran my fingers through her hair and felt her thighs loosen, symbolic for how relaxed she’d become. Even when her days are chaotic, she comes home to me and I help her find peace. This is love.” – r.h. Sin
  • “When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away.” – Captain Corellis Mandolin
  • “you can always find something beautiful in something destructive and now I finally understand why I’ve always been so fond of you.” – uknown
  • “I think I fall in love with people a little too much, just in the way they sound at 4 am or how they look when they smile. And it’s so addicting, when their eyes light up, because you’ve remembered something they may have said. I think I grow attached to people, who I know, will leave. But I can’t help it, because I see all that you are, when you don’t really see it yourself. And sometimes I wonder how someone’s heart, grows so cold, and I think, that maybe it’s because for a while, it was left out in the rain. You know some days I struggle, when there’s nothing left to say, because I still don’t know how to convince you, that out of everyone, and all the ones that leave, I’m always the one still standing there, with an umbrella, just big enough, to cover your heart.” – c.p.
  • “She knew she loved him when home went from being a place to being a person.” – E Leventhal
  • “I will never be the first of so many things for you. I came too late, after life and love were woven into the tapestry of your existence. I care not about lost firsts, but I will fight, knuckles bloody and teeth sharpened, for your lasts. Take the old firsts and put them to rest, silent below the dirt and ash of all the new ones we will burn through. Take them, but give me the lasts.” – Tyler Knott Gregson
  • “and in the end, we were all just humans, drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • “I don’t ask you to love me always like this, but I ask you to remember. Somewhere inside of me there will always be the person I am tonight.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald Tender Is The Night
  • ” ‘The trick, kiddo,’ his mom replies slowly, ‘is finding someone who complements you instead of completes you. You need to be complete on your own.” – unknown
  • “I asked him for it. For the blood, for the rust, for the sin. I didn’t want the pearls other girls talked about, or the fine marble of palaces, or even the roses in the mouth of servants. I wanted pomegranates – I wanted darkness, I wanted him. So I grabbed my king and ran away to a land of death, where I reigned and people whispered that I’d been dragged. I’ll tell you I’ve changed, I’ll tell you, the red on my lips isn’t wine. I hope you’ve heard of horns, but that isn’t half of it. Out of an entire kingdom he kneels only to me, calls me Queen, calls me Mercy. Mama, Mama, I hope you get this. Know the bed is warm and our hearts are cold, know never have I been better that when I am here. Do not send flowers, we’ll throw them in the river. ‘Flowers are for the dead,’ ‘least thats what the mortals say. I’ll come back when he bores me, but Mama, not today.” – Daniella Michallen, “Persephone Speaks”
  • “And I think the thing that terrifies me most is that one day, you’ll be the story I’ll tell my daughter, when she’s curled up in bed, wrapped in blankets and heartbreak, when she hasn’t eaten anything in days but the voicemails he left her, when she hasn’t been able to sleep because the goodbye that broke her shatters her bones all over again every time she closes her fucking eyes. And I’ll climb into bed with her and she’ll lay her head on my lap and I’ll try to brush him out of her hair and her tears will soak through my shirt and I’ll tell her about the boy I met when I was sixteen, who sat next to me in math class, who I fell in love with after two weeks, who saved me, who fucking destroyed me. And I’ll tell her about how it hurt. It hurt so badly it almost killed me. It hurt so badly my mother stopped going to work so she could stay home and make sure I didn’t take too many pills. And then I’ll tell her about how it got better. How it stopped hurting. How I stopped bleeding. My mother went back to work. I got out of bed. But I won’t tell her that sometimes I still have dreams about you and can hardly breathe the next day or about the pictures of you I have hidden in the attic.” – via extrasad
  • “I am not very good at a lot of things; i cannot paint you pictures because the beautiful things in my head cannot be translated  nor can I sing to you as my voice has an uncanny habit of falling flat  nor can I play for you as my fingers fumble when my thoughts cross over to how you look, watching me  but I can brush the knots out of your hair, and work the knots out of your back when your day has become too much to bear  i am not good at much, but I will be good to you. – kpk

Medical Emergencies and Multiple Hospitals

*apologies, this was written Thursday Morning but I’m just getting around to posting it. I will update more later*

Here I am again dear readers. Unfortunately, events like this seem to be the only time I’m able to find enough free time to write. I’m sitting here in the floor, back against the wall, in a hospital room listening to my father and my boyfriend snore.

Life is a complicated animal. Much has happened, as is the case for everyone. But over the last few weeks, it’s been crazy. My grandmother went in the hospital for not being able to breathe. It went from her having a goiter on her windpipe and artery to her also having a very aggressive form of thyroid cancer. While trying to get everything scheduled for her to start radiation at Emory, my mom has also been trying to take care of my father.

Renal failure, diabetes, eye issues, neuropathy (to the point of not being able to feel in his hands and feet), and balance issues are just a few of the lovely things my father faces every day. It’s a constant battle. But, it gets better. Yesterday morning while my mom was getting ready to take my father to dialysis, he fell and broke his ankle. Pretty severely. It was also my mom’s birthday. And her mother was in the hospital due to severe fluid retention that turned out to be a blood clot in her leg.

Today, they managed to get my grandmother released from our local hospital but only to take her to Emory in Atlanta to begin her first day of radiation treatment. My dad is supposed to have surgery on his ankle today. My poor mom can’t be in both places. So I took the day off work to come watch over my dad.

It’s so hard to see him like this. Restless, in pain, and a shadow of his formal self. But this is life. It happens to all of us who are here long enough. And I know he hates for me to see him like this. But I guess we all come to a point where we have to bite our pride and accept the help of those who love us, regardless of the situation. So, while my mom drives to Atl with her sister-in-law and my grandmother, I am sitting here doing research for the coming days after surgery.

Planning to add a ramp to the stairs at my parents’ house. Looking up trailer hitch receivers and cargo trays for my mom’s car to carry a wheel chair for my dad and/or my grandmother. Planning food prep menus to help my parents when they’re exhausted but still need to follow dad’s dietary restrictions.

So many things to do. So little time. The curse of my life.

In these situations, with a loved one who’s health is chronically failing, it’s difficult to explain. People always ask me how he’s doing. It’s hard to say, isn’t it? It’s not like chemo, there is no fight and then remission. The only thing that helps renal failure is a transplant. And what can you tell someone then? He’s hanging in there waiting for  someone with a good kidney and pancreas to pass so he can have them? That, by the way, is not something people want to hear. It’s the truth, but people do not want the truth. Not the whole, unaltered truth that makes them uncomfortable. So I tell people the truest thing I can. He’s still here.

And for now, that’s all that matters.


 

” ‘ Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them.’ I said. ‘Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.’ ” – John Green, The Fault In Our Stars

“He admired my melancholy madness and said that it was graceful and beautiful. But it was neither of those things. I was a hurricane at the centre of a collapsing, burning, building; and I wasn’t someone to be admired at all.”

“Even if you know what’s coming, you ‘re never prepared for how it feels.” – Natalie Standiford

“You wake up every night to fight the same demons that left you so tired the night before, and that, my love, is bravery.” – unknown

“Well it breaks my heart to see you this way, The beauty in life where’s it gone? And somebody told me you were doing ok, somehow I guess they were wrong.” Flogging Molly “Whistles the wind”

“Don’t ever think you’re alone here, We’ve just been trapped in different hells, and people aren’t against you dear, they’re just all for themselves.” – e.h.

“May we exist like the lotus, at ease in muddy water.” – Zen proverb

“Keep your chin up little stargazer, At worlds above your own, You are small but you are stardust, And that’s worth more than you’ve known, For every sun and solar flare, Is made up just like you, And if they’re cause for wonder Then I promise you are too. Look out little stargazer ‘Til nothing’s left unseen, And know there’s not a patch of sky Where no one else’s eyes have been, That the darkness that enfolds you Holds countless other starlit hearts, And with this you stand together Though you live lifetimes apart. Be brave now little stargazer The sky is growing light, And courage wanes like moonbeams When it’s pulled out from the night, But like those who gazed before you; Know when your heart is full of fear, That it is always in your darkness That the stars start to appear.” -e.h.

“we mature with the damage, not with the years.” – Mateus William

“Enjoy every sandwich” – Warren Zevon

“I abide my heart to know wisdom, and to know madness and folly. I perceived that this is also a chasing at the wind. For in much wisdom is much grief. And he that increaseth knowledge, increaseth sorrow.” – Assassin’s Creed

“Empedocles claims that, in utero, our backbone is one long solid; and that through the constriction of the womb and the punishment of birth, it must be snapped again and again and again to form our verterbrae; that for the child to have a spine, it’s back must first be broken.” – The Astonishing Life of Octavian Nothing: Traitor to the Nation M.T. Anderson

“She looks back out the window and as the light slides along her profile, I think I see sadness. And I wonder if she’s sad that I’m so weak and so afraid when she’s always been so strong.” – The Forest of Hands and Teeth

“If I leave you it doesn’t mean I love you any less.” – Warren Zevon “Keep me in your heart.”

“Promise me you will not spend so much time treading water and trying to keep your head above the waves that you forget, truly forget, how much you have always loved to swim.” – Tyler Knott Gregson

“Take the night and darken everything around me, Call the clouds, and listen closely, I’m lost without you. Call your name everyday, when I feel so helpless, I’m fallen down but I’ll rise above this.” – Seether “Rise above this”

“We live in grim times indeed if even children are too world weary to believe in magic.” – Fable

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” – C.S. Lewis

“She’s all laid up in bed with a broken heart, while I’m drinking Jack all alone in a local bar. And we don’t know how, how we got into this mad situation, only doing things out of frustration, trying to make it work but man these times are hard.” – The Script “For the First Time”

“Mama whispered softly, time will ease your pain. Life’s about changing, nothing ever stays the same.” – Patty Loveless

“Life asked Death, ‘Why do people love me but hate you?’ Death responded, ‘ Because you are a beautiful lie, and I am a painful truth.’ ”

“But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines, it will shine out all the clearer.” – Samwise Gamgee “LOTR: The Two Towers” – J.R.R. Tolkien

“These are hard times. The world hurts. We live in fear and forget to walk with hope. But hope has not forgotten you. So ask it to dinner. It’s probably hungry and would appreciate the invitation.” – Libba Bray “Going Bovine”

“It’s not hard to do. It’s just not easy yet.” – Monte  Selby

“Life is a grindstone, and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him up depends on the stuff he’s made of.” – J. Billings

” ‘Sometimes,’ he said while gripping the fabric of his own pant leg, “You run out of tears long before you run out of hurt.’ ” – Tyler Knott Gregson

“Listen to the musn’ts child, listen to the don’ts , listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me – anything can happen child, anything can be.” – Shel Silverstein

“I clutch my pillow to my chest and bury my face in it. I don’t cry. I just ache. Grief is not as heavy as guilt, but it takes more away from you.” – “Allegiant” Veronica Roth

“Needles and pins, needles and pins, sew me a sail, to catch me the wind. Sew me a sail, strong as a gale, carpenter bring out your, hammers and nails. Hammers and nails, hammers and nails, build me a boat, to go chasing the whales. Chasing the whales, sailing the blue, find me a captain, and sign me a crew. Captain and crew, captain and crew, take me oh take me, to anywhere new.” – Shel Silverstein

“She taught me all about real sacrifice. That it should be done from love… That it should be done from necessity, not without exhausting all other options. That it should be done for people who need your strength because they don’t have enough of their own.” – Veronica Roth Insurgent

“A nurse guy came in and told me I had to leave, that visitors weren’t allowed, and I asked if she was doing okay, and the guy said, “She’s still taking on water.” A desert blessing, an ocean curse. ” – John Green The Fault In Our Stars

“We all carry things inside us that no one else can see. They weigh us down like anchors, they drown us out at sea.” – Chelsea Smile Bring me the Horizion

 

Photo 101 Day 1: Home

I decided to try to get myself back into the swing of blogging by signing up for Photography 101. Today’s theme is home. I’ve already written about Home in one of my Writing 101 assignments and you may feel free to read it if you want to know my feelings on home. But this is just Photography 101 so here home for me. It’s new and still doesn’t feel like “home” but here’s hoping it will soon.

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Oh The Places You’ll Go!

Welcome to 2016 dear readers! If you’ve been around for a while, welcome back! If you’re new here, welcome and please jump right in!

I’m not visiting anywhere today. Instead, I would like to know where you want to go. What are some destinations you plan to visit this year? What destinations are on your bucket list? What are some places you’d like to see me write about?

I write for myself and for you. I hope to inform you, dear friends, about some places you may never have been (or even heard of) and inspire you to travel and see places and things out of the ordinary.

So please, share with me the places you love so I can share them with others. Share with me the places of your dreams so others may share that dream with you. Wherever you go, please have a safe journey.

 

On to the quotes!

“Listen close,” he told me, “I was once rich with life you see,           Every week ahead was certain, Every year a guarantee. But I           squandered all my seconds. I bought boredom, gambled                 greed, I lost all of my riches On the things I didn’t need. So          when the truth fell like a teardrop I was sure that I’d been              wronged, That I was robbed of all those riches, Of a life                    lavish and long. But now I see it clearly , Oh it was the                      prefect crime, For the only thief was me And the victim was          my time.” – e.h.

“She was the kind of person Who would find magic on the                ground, As though the secret to real joy Was something left          lying around. She’d pull it out of library books, Their pages            ripped and worn, And swore that she could see it In the air            before the storm. If you’re wary of believing Know I’m no              stranger to distrust, Back then all I found in library books              Was the smell of moths and dust. And despite her every                  promise That each storm holds something gold, I would                  wait for hours And all I ever caught was colds. Until she told          me through her laughter That believing is the key, You                    cannot change the way the world looks Until you change                the way you see.” – e.h.

“You wake up every night to fight the same demons that                   left you so tired the night before, and that, my love, is                     bravery. ” – unknown

“She’s got a heavy heart, a messy soul, a reckless mind,                    and I think it’s beautiful the way she carries herself.” –                  unknown

 

 

Just and Update

Just a quick apology and update. I have been so busy with work, family, and the approaching holidays that I haven’t posted in quite some time. I hope you are all still here reading and forgive me, knowing that life can often get in the way.

No destination for today, I will save that for Wednesday. Just wanted to let you all know I am still here. Hope you are doing well, dear readers.

P.S. Apparently there was some sort of update while I was away? Posting is slightly different and may take me a minute to figure out, so please bare with me. 🙂

Writing 201: Catch-up

Day 4: Imperfect, Limerick, Enjambment 

Imperfect is a word we all know,

the shame

makes our cheeks brightly

glow,

We do what we can to make it right again,

Absolute perfection we feign,

But underneath it, we know.

Day 5: Map, Ode, Metaphor

A map is made of lines

roads of all sizes and kinds.

They show you where you’ve been

and how to get back there again.

But maps are not always paper and ink,

they are other things too, I think.

Your hands are maps, full of lines,

they tell others how you spend your time.

Your eyes are guides as well,

the things you’ve seen, they tell.

So if you feel lost and alone,

and far from home you’ve flown,

Just know that maps will show you the way,

and guide you safely from the fray.

No matter how lost you think you are,

you can always find direction among the stars.

Weekend Poetry Potluck

I’ll be sharing with you one of my favorite poems I’ve discovered lately. Check my wednesday posts for more. 🙂

I am not very good

at a lot of things,

I cannot paint

you pictures

because the beautiful

things in my head

cannot be translated

nor can I sing to you,

as my voice has an

uncanny habit of

falling flat

nor can i play for you

as my fingers fumble

when my thoughts

cross over how

you look, watching me

but i can brush the

knots out of your hair,

and work the knots

out of your back

when your day

has become too

much to bear

i am not good at much,

but i will be good to you.

kpk

Day 6: Faces, Found Poetry, & Chaismus

I’m skipping this one for now and will try to come back to it later. My brain’s just drawing a blank on it right now.

Day 7: Neighborhood, Ballad, Assonance

A neighborhood is a thing, not just a place,

it’s somewhere to call home, a friendly space.

Some are different but that’s not always the case.

Just somewhere for you to know all the faces.

They’re full of friends and grace.

Somewhere to call home base.

Day 8: Flavor, Elegy, Enumeratio

They never told me that you couldn’t eat

whatever your wanted when your kidneys were beat.

No more peanuts, not even the butter,

“way too much phosphorus”, I mutter.

No more fried foods, no more dried beans,

Now all your eating has to be clean.

Limited liquid, no more salt,

No more dairy, lay off the malt.

No more bananas, no more guacamole.

Learning all this comes very slowly.

Day 9: Cold, Found Poetry, & Epistrophe/Anaphora

Cold

is like a

snowball, chasing

you across the yard. Cold is

like an icicle, dripping slowly down the

collar of your jacket. Cold is seeing your breath

on the window while you gaze at the world outside.

Cold is that first snow flake falling on the tip of

your nose. Cold is a shiver down your spine.

Day 10: Pleasure, Sonnet, Apostrophe

Music is such a pleasure to me.

It says things my words can’t.

Sometimes it makes me chant,

It makes my heart feel free.

Some days I go on a listening spree,

Sometimes my mood makes me slant,

and the music is like my rant.

Other days, I use it to flee.

 It fills my ears and makes me smile.

The pleasure comes from within.

Learning it is always worth your while.

It causes goosebumps all over your skin,

It doesn’t matter the style.

You’ll know as soon as it begins.

In Conclusion:

I’m not super happy with all of these but that’s ok I suppose. I’d love to hear your thoughts on anything. Thank you for dropping by, dear friends and neighbors.

Wanderlust & Wordy Wednesday: Helen, GA

Hello Friends & Neighbors, and welcome back for another Wanderlust and Wordy Wednesday! I know I’ve been absent this week, and I will eventually finish all the prompts from Writing 101, but today is not that day. It’s been a literal emotional roller coaster in my world this week, and it’s only Wednesday. So I feel that keeping with this regular feature, that I enjoy, will help me keep blogging and also calm me down.


Today’s wanderlust is going to take you to another North Georgia town; Helen, GA. This town is about 90 miles north of Atlanta. What makes Helen special? I’m glad you asked. Helen got it’s start as a logging town that found a way to turn it all around when that started going south. Helen made itself a replica of a town in the Bavarian Alps, only in the Appalachians. The design is now mandated so every building built must follow the classic South German style, even the national franchises (like the Huddle House).  As you can imagine, Helen is a really popular destination in the fall and winter. It’s popular for motorcyclists because of the excellent curvy mountain roads that surround it. It’s popular for a lot of people because they celebrate Oktoberfest every year (September thru November). It’s, of course, a very popular place during Christmas too. The whole town is decorated accordingly. Catch it before they close up shop for the worst part of winter. The town basically shuts down as temperature and tourism drops.

In addition to great food (try Hofer’s for baked goods and an awesome breakfast or The Troll Tavern under the bridge) and shopping to be found, the Chattahoochee River runs right through downtown. For around $5 per person, you can spend a few hours “tubin’ the ‘hooch” It’s a good time and I recommend it, just be warned, if the water’s low you’re gonna scrape your butt a little.

Helen is also surrounded by many natural wonders. Unicoi State Park is immediately north-northeast of Helen. It’s over 1,000 acres with a 53 acre lake. It’s part of the Chattahoochee National Forest. It’s also hiding the gem, Anna Ruby Falls. The paved trail is about 1/2 mile but it’s great. There’s also a trail called the Lion’s Eye Trail that goes along the creek and is meant to help those who are visually impaired experience and learn about the park. There are hand rails and braille signs.

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Helen is a great little town surrounded by tons of natural beauty. Whether you go for the food, environment, shopping, downtown carriage rides, hiking, waterfalls, or tubing, if you ever get the chance, you should go. Whether you stay at The Castle Inn or rent a secluded cabin, you’ll find an enjoyable weekend ahead.


  • “She was a liar and he was a thief, Suspended inside different stages of grief, When nobody listened despite how she sung, She learnt to twist truth on the tip of her tongue, His pockets were laden with diamonds and keys, So no one would notice the blood on his knees, They lived worlds apart but one thing they both knew, “I’m fine” sounds the same even when it’s not true.” – e.l.
  • “I am sending you this post card, From the dark side of the moon, So you know I got here safely, And that I will be home soon, For today I held our planet, Between the fingers on my hand, And learnt there’s more stars out here, Than our earth has grains of sand, So now the life I ran from, Doesn’t seem like such a wreck, When the town that I grew up in, Isn’t more than just a speck, And although my life feels tiny, As I look back at our home, I’ve realized we’re the only ones, Who don’t live it alone, That sometimes even shooting stars, Send pieces down to earth, When their solitary beauty, Starts to cost more than it’s worth, I am sending you this postcard, From the silence of the skies, To remind you that there’s beauty, In our microscopic size, So I hope next time you feel alone, The moon shows you you’re not, And how lucky we all are to find, Our home on this blue dot.” – e.h.
  • “I promise you, these storms are only trying to was you clean.” – Jessica Katoff
  • “When they called you a heartbreaker, there’s no way they could have know, That you’d left no heart more broken, Than the way you’d left your own.” – e.h.
  • “Just like the loss of love, it ain’t the bullet that kills you – it’s the open space it leaves behind.” – Michael Xavier
  • “Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.” – David G. Allen
  • You can’t change what you refuse to confront.
  • “And there were always those nights where she preferred the rain over people. Because the rain would remind her of how she should feel and people would remind her of the things she always wanted to forget.”- R.M. Drake
  • “Perhaps we only leave So we may once again arrive, To get a bird’s eye view Of what it means to be alive. For there is beauty in returning, Oh how wonderful, how strange, To see that everything is different But know it’s only you who’s changed.” -e.h.

Writing 101: Day 10 – A quick cup of joe.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d be asking you how it is because I don’t care for coffee. I’d be apologizing for the fact that we don’t have any creamer, only sugar. I’d be glad that our plate set came with coffee cups. If we were having coffee right now, I’d be having hot chocolate or perhaps peppermint tea. Probably the tea because of my sinuses, allergies, or whatever is keeping my nose running while not being able to breathe through it.

If we were having coffee, I’d apologize for the size of my front porch. I know here in the South we’re accustomed to our large wrap around porches with beautiful balustrades, lovely views, and ceiling fans. I have a concrete pad and two patio chairs I borrowed from my mother. If we were having coffee, I’d thank you for driving all the way out to my new house for just a cup of joe. I’d be thankful the boyfriend bought coffee, and we would both be thankful he has good tastes.

If we were having coffee, I’d probably be retelling you exactly why it took us five months to move into a “move in ready” house and how “move in ready” apparently means different things to different people. I’d be telling you why I bought a house with my boyfriend instead of getting married first. If we were having coffee, I’d be trying to steer the conversation more towards hearing about you, because I do not like talking about myself. “Let me get you a refill,” would be my distraction technique.

Now then, where were we? Ah yes. If we were having coffee, I would ask you how work is. You sound burnt out. When’s the last time you took a vacation? I know, I know. None of us can afford it. But you have to take take care of yourself, and that means your mental health too. We couldn’t really afford it but that trip to Memphis was just what we needed with all the stress of the house.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you to stay as long as you want to. You’re always welcome here. While I can’t promise the coffee will always be ready, I can promise there’s always a chair here for you. Thanks for dropping by.

Writing 101: Day 2 – Making A List.

Welcome back friends and neighbors. Today’s post is Writing 101: Day 2. It’s all about making a list, either of things we like, things we’ve learned, or things we wish. I haven’t completely decided which I’d rather do, so I’m thinking of doing a little of each. Trying to force myself to focus too much on one area tends to burn me out. So, let’s see where this post goes, shall we?

We all have things we like, and things we don’t like. Sometimes explaining why we like them is easy, sometimes it isn’t. Usually the latter tends to be the case for me, so I’m glad that we only have to list them, not explain them. 🙂

Things I Like:

  • the way old books smell
  • a nice comfy blanket on a dreary, rainy day
  • a cup of hot cocoa on clear, cold night.
  • stargazing
  • bonfires with friends on nice fall nights (specifically the point where everyone kind of quiets down and turns inward to reflect on life)
  • binge watching hgtv with my boyfriend and dreaming how we could flip houses (while avoiding/ignoring our own reno)
  • driving around on a nice summer day, no where to go and no time to be there
  • quotes that make my heart beat harder, because somewhere I connect with them on a deep level
  • songs that give me goosebumps or make me want to sing out loud and not care who hears
  • sewing (specifically, making things like baby blankets for friends and family)
  • The view off the side of a mountain, nothing around but beautiful trees, sunny skies, and soaring birds
  • the first bite of a crisp, ripe apple
  • mini things. Pretty much all of them.
  • Adorable animals. (otter, hedgehog, puppies, ect)

Whew. That was slightly therapeutic. If you couldn’t tell, I had to stop myself from going off on a tangent a few times. What can I say? I have too much of my father in me. Well, let’s see if I can do a list of things I’ve learned. If you’re gonna push yourself, why not go all the way, right?

Things I’ve Learned:

  • not everyone has the same heart as you
  • there is a fine line between being honest and being rude. And walking it without crossing it is a hard but handy trick to know.
  • it is much better to listen that to talk
  • Quality over quantity. In all things.
  • knowing your self worth, and a being confident in it, is a necessity.
  • Carry only what you need with you. For your travels, for your life.
  • Change starts with little things. The little things turn into big things. And before you know it, change has happened.
  • KISS. Keep it simple, stupid.
  • You should approach most things like eating an elephant. One small piece at a time.
  • Love is unconditional. Relationships are not.
  • You really do get back what your put in (or what you give)
  • lessons are easier to learn if you don’t try to learn them all yourself.
  • You have to let go.
  • Forgiveness doesn’t end with the other person. It ends with you. Forgive yourself too.
  • When you get out of a long term relationship, it’s important to face solitude head on. You have to know yourself, what you like, what you want, what you deserve, and to love yourself before you can know and love someone else.
  • Patience is a virtue and costs you nothing.
  • None of us find as much kindness in this life as we deserve.

Things I Wish:

  • I wish I could make a decision without overthinking it.
  • I wish I could keep my anxiety to a minimum.
  • I wish there was a cure for kidney disease.
  • I wish I had more self-confidence.
  • I wish I were better at making friends.
  • I wish I could make a living doing what I love.
  • I wish I knew what I want from life.
  • and I wish I knew how to get it.
  • I wish I knew if I was making the right choice.

I had every intention of posting this last night but I fell asleep. Hey, it’s to be expected in the world of late night blogging. 😉

Share with me your favorites or some of the things from your list (even if you aren’t doing writing 101!).